Chances are, you’re always looking to make improvements in your life. Early in the year, we’re all trying to be better men. So if one of your New Year’s resolutions was to have a better sex life, here are seven quick ideas to help you achieve that goal.
1: Get some sun
There are a lot of good reasons to go to the islands for a romantic getaway, and one of them is sunlight. Exposure to sunlight boosts Vitamin D levels in the body, which has positive effects for both men and women’s sex drives. For guys, just 30 minutes of sunlight per day for 2 weeks can boost testosterone levels and sex drive. For women, it boosts estrogen levels, which she needs for sexual desire and to keep her vaginal muscles healthy and lubricated. (1) So make sure you both soak up some sun before sex, even if you can’t get away to Kokomo.
2: Set the mood
Feel like your sex life is in a rut and want some new ways to spice things up even before you get to the bedroom? Try one or more of these suggestions:
- Make it something to look forward to: talk about what you want to do that night over breakfast and text her during the day.
- Give each other a massage: especially if you’ve never given each other one before, it can add something new.
- Wear something sexy for her: Sure you can buy her a new lace bra, but what about for you? Even if you don’t look like David Beckham, consider getting some great quality black boxer briefs or something else that she thinks is sexy.
- Play cards: get a deck of sex suggestion cards or a set of dice with sexy ideas on them to give you something new to try.
3: Skip the second glass of wine
Alcohol and sex. They just seem to go together, don’t they? But when you’re enjoying a drink with your partner to set the mood, don’t overindulge. A little bit of alcohol can get the blood flowing, but too much has the opposite effect, causing blood vessels to contract and making it harder for you to get hard. So put down the glass and get busy.
4: Warm it up
We all know what happens when the boys get hit with a cold breeze. If you like to keep your bedroom cool for sleeping, don’t forget to turn up the thermostat a few degrees before getting it on. Any goosebumps should be caused by your partner, not cold air. So if you haven’t been able to get hard lately, try warming up the room first.
5: Last Longer
Do you find yourself coming before your partner? That’s normal, because the average guy takes 5-6 minutes to orgasm, while for women it’s closer to 13 minutes (2). If this is true for you, try pausing your thrusts when you’re nearing your peak and stimulate her with your hands or mouth to keep her going. It will make sex last longer and by working together to come at the same time, you’ll both be more satisfied. Also consider experimenting with different positions where she can adjust the speed of the action to match her pace.
6: Think Outside the Box
If your ED makes it difficult to get an erection in the moment, don’t roll over and give up. Ask your partner what she wants you to do for her without using your penis. She probably has some ideas she’d love for you to try on her. Just because you can’t get an erection doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a great time in the bedroom.
7: Keep it going
It’s one of those simple facts: men need more time than women to recover before going for a second round, even without ED. The “refractory period”, as it’s called, can be 30 minutes or more (3). So if you want to go for 2, make sure you have the time to cuddle and make out for that half hour before trying to go again. Accept it as the reality that it is and don’t get frustrated or blame yourself.
No matter what time of year it is, it’s always a good time to try something new to improve your love life. So get off the couch and get busy with these tips in mind.
1 – https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/sex/the-surprising-reason-why-your-sex-life-probably-needs-more-vitamin-d/news-story/4cb52498a57fd5026e1898d67a774ec7?nk=2a5ded2b9c72989892985924c339996b-1609454076
2 – https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2019/6/26/how-long-does-it-take-women-and-men-to-orgasm
3 – https://www.webmd.com/men/features/sex-fact-fiction#6